All Your Fears To A Satisfying And Secure RELATIONSHIP Are Now Revealed And Explained In Detail Make Your Marriage Or Relationship Absolutely Affair-proof.
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We have and be content with whom we live is a code to maintaining good and lasting relationship. Human physiology is to get attracted to new and better that may be life, beauty, human, economic condition or etc; controlling self from surrendering to that attraction and learning to endure with existing situation saves from deteriorating relationship. Some factors as I feel are important to lead stressful Married Relationship :
1. Communication in relationship: In relationship, the manner how mentally, verbally, physically converse with partner is called communication. Even eye, face and body can reveal what is in mind. Good Living partners need not speak to reveal affection, feeling, desire and self opinion. Eyes, eyelashes, glowing or dull face and body parts explain the inner mind. Similarly reveals ifs and buts too. So need to hide nothing, open each and every chapter of your book so the partner can read, understand and evaluate to confirm that way the good lasting relationship establishes. Well understood partners are so attached, in sad or funny occasions partner is in mind. Absence of one partner in partnership gives a feel of missing. Most marriages fail where despite living together for long time intimacy is juvenile. Mind of both are against each other by finding each others weak points and do not want to change. The mentality is formed so strong that now is unchangeable. Communication of such people is mostly fake, selfish and hides the reality. Mostly cheaters are from this category. So communication is one major feature to widen relationship and lead stress less life.
2. Care and security: Most women respect their men who care and give feeling of security. This is first she demands from her man for her even sexual fulfillment is second to security as she even loves sex in security. She can sacrifice anything for such partner. She feels protected safe and powerful to fight any obstacle of life if her man is with her. Non caring partner is least respected, she would not even hesitate to cheat on him as without inner respect he nobody. In case woman is monetarily and physically weak to fight back she repents for rest of her life, is acute stressful life she undergoes for entire her. On the contrary male partners too suffer carelessness from women partners. Such men are normally unemployed, sexually – physically – mentally weak, addict and monetarily weak.
3. Fading attraction between partners. Age group of 25-40 demands search for better life so get attracted to better jobs, better sensual apatite, better living and etc;. Under this age group people tend to desire variety of physical and emotional add-ons. For this age group same old routine becomes too boring. A boring life needs change to revitalize. Many people find ways to refresh by associating with other for sensual and emotional craving, involve in unwanted activities, etc; having involved in these activities fails to pay attention to own surviving members or getting caught aggravates. On the other hand people with different ideology together find solutions to rejuvenate faded attraction by changing life pattern, satiating sexual apatite, reviving physical look, become more open verbally and physically.
4. Economic stress. Non earning house wives are vulnerable to stressful economic experiences. Managing home for low and middle income group is not less tensed; this situation escalates further when price of essential commodity soars, cutting essential needs is tough job. Reducing any of them would affect the home life. Under this situation either expenses are cut or defaulted or look for a job for economic survival. And incase failure to meet expenses even with earning of both the members cutting cost of daily life becomes essential. This situation is stressful for both responsible members of the family. In many cases when earning member avoids giving full money so meet addiction habits or demand money to fulfill these needs is fuel to worsening relationship. Feel emotionally tortured, especially women who run home aggravate blaming each other that deteriorates home environment. Poverty and inflation are two major factors for economic stress in the family. Most of poor and low income families are susceptible to this stressful life. 5. Mother-in-law AND daughter-in-law conflict. Two different identities (mother in law and daughter in law) of different ideologies fight each other to gain control over one man. These two beloved women crush this man in their skirmish. They do not realize the affect on the man they are fighting-for. In most cases, mother gets defeated in this episode and ends up rest of her life in the old age homes. If wife looses the war, she ends up in marriage failure. Finally, who is the looser? This episode of mother in law and daughter in law war all three members undergo in stressful environment. 6. Inability to perform physical and emotional satisfaction to partner. In married life between living partners physical and emotional care in bed and day life has an important role to carry on smooth relationship. • Physical satisfaction. Men tend to focus on sexual intercourse and loves partner to exercise various kinds for genital stimulation. On the other women love to enjoy prior to sexual intercourse and sexual intercourse. Women enjoy more in attachment during sexual experience. In most cases men fail to satiate them due to lack of patience or misunderstanding women desire for sexual experience. For women sexual intercourse becomes burden until they felt the pleasure. For a women and men sexual activity is most ecstasy. For both release is for relief that vitalizes entire body and brain. Finally it is satisfaction that brings both together and caring as both care and understands each other’s needs. • Emotional satisfaction. Care and touchy for each other respecting and understanding the feelings. Human is never in same behavior some times sad, worried, scared, raged, anxious, and so on. Change of behavior is by coming across different environments in office, travel, meetings, home, and instances. Mostly surrounding environment dominates own character to behave according to the environmental needs. Many times during menses women behavior changes feels uneasy and become agitated. Overload of work or failing to achieve objective leads to exhaustion and disappointments. Depending on the intensity of occurrence, same attitude lasts for several hours and days in the mind and behaves accordingly with partner. And if partner without realizing the facts approaches same way the bitterness begins. Consoling the partner during that moment is emotional satisfaction. The security is felt and realizes emotional attachment.
7. External environment: Generally working in office or other areas we encounter many incidents from sad to happy, physical tiredness to liveliness; our minds react to the incidents through our personality. The reaction caused, affects our mind to change behavior. That change of behavior remains until shifts to different atmosphere that overshadows existing one. (However, not necessary that sad environment will force to change behavior for long time; this depends on comprising negative and positive factors in individuals). When finds similar situation, reinforces existing behavior, good for best and bad for worst. Exhilarating atmosphere at home upon arrival, consoles negative or violent behavior. The understanding wants partner to behave same way to soften homely atmosphere.
8. Marriage and external attraction/infidelity: Fading attraction drives to incline towards fresh and new attractions so can gratify self and fulfil what is lost. Those who are exposed to external environment are easily dragged into these attractions. Each woman or man working are exposed to external atmosphere. Many realise later and find the reasons as why did she/he go for it? was he/she not happy? If not, why? What can I or children do for it?
9. Different culture and religion: Denote leading different life pattern as drawn in holy scripts. Liberal marring to inflexible religious leads to stressful married life and has to lead whole life or till separation. Especially in arranged marriages or jumbled marring decisions stressful women life is common. It is rare in relations developed before marriage and knowing each other’s attitude for long time. However, in religiously conservative societies privilege of marriage is enjoyed by men only. Woman’s rights are curtailed to restrict to obeying husband. Fulfilling husband’s desire and wish. Under such circumstances nothing can help until social change takes place.
10. Difference of opinion: Each individual possesses own ideology, forms own credence and opinion relates to the personality. In marriage relationship the first step is to respect other’s personality to form chemistry. If chemistry is formed in the relationship, even difference of opinion would mingle to well-matched. Nearly 99% of families have difference of opinions yet most of them survive either by force of culture or religion, dominating behavior, or with attractive quality behavior. Attract collision in case both possess dominating behavior with one negative and the other positive.
11. Economic dominance or jealousy: Unfortunately most men are accursed with this deficiency, can not stand woman dominating economically. The reason may be fear of loosing control over home or her. In most living species males are born this way. Prevailing dominating instinct prompts them to behave to have control. Some one some where has to accommodate for smooth home. We are not in ancient world or animal world; this realization can only change the attitude. Without displaying economic lead making him understand the need of economic strength for comfortable life will benefit. However, these statements look good to speak or write but actual life is different, most men from culturally and religiously conservative societies, can not stand without domination as they are taught this way. Change would be feasible only by social change.
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Each person has own character and quality, the individuality identifies when reflected through communication and practice. Major characters which effect married life are Negative/ Positive, Introverted/ extroverted and strong/ weak, these characters control us. In some negative dominates and in some positive dominates, and what dominates reveals through reaction.
Problems with gaydar?
Gay men have always been the trendsetters, flamboyant about their choice of clothes, picking up scarves and other leather embellishments that straight men wouldn’t dream of! However, there is a thin line between a gay man’s and a straight man’s attire with both of them adopting new styles and trends at a lightening speed. Metro-sexual men akin to homosexual men are into pedicures and scented candles; they too prefer flat-front pants, sandals and shoulder bags. So, what will the gay crowd do new to become the trendsetters again?
Colour codes and clothes online to establish yourself
As we all know that clothes describe the attitude of person and sometimes even his sexual orientation, the best thing left for us to do is learn about colour codes.
There are clothes for offices and clothes for partying, clothes for golf and clothes for dating. You need to be in tune with fashion to know what will work where. A fashion conscious gay man will neither walk into a bar wearing suit and tie, nor will he dress up in a pink shirt and leather jacket for company presentation. Here’s a colour-coded dressing guide for gays to keep in mind when they go to a gay clothes shops or shop for clothes online.
Clothes online for dating
The perfect clothing for single wanting to mingle would be a blue tee or shirt as blue unconsciously makes the other person feel that you are faithful, stable and will ‘always be there’. Gays in blue represents a man ready for long-term, monogamous relationship. If your gaydar registers a gay man in blue, ask him out immediately. If you are a calm and compassionate individual, seeking someone faithful and equally calm, look for gays in pink. Green and brown are other colours that reflect calm personality and if your gaydar finds somebody in any of the above-mentioned four fantastic colours, hook on to him!
Red and orange are colours for people with powerful personalities. Red is the colour of dominance and determination, strength and sexual energy, passion and persistence – if you are looking for a dom, for a sub/dom relationship, look out for gay men in red. Orange colour is not as powerful as red but if you spot a gay in orange, you can rest assured that he is easy-going, welcoming, casual, courageous and bold (has to be if he carries himself well in this colour). Such men are hard to find so latch on to them strongly if you find them ever.
Clothes online for work
If you are looking for clothes online for formal occasions that will spread your charisma everywhere without making you appear over the top and over-dressed – go with black. It is the queen of all colours and reflects elegance, authority, stateliness and sophistication. If you are having an important presentation in the office and would like to look more brainy, classy, efficient and confident than your straight colleagues, quick get gray clothes online. Nine out of ten men will not have this boring colour but gray shirts really look cool and give you a look of intellectuality in a way no straight man can ever imitate. Other colour that gay men detest is brown but this earthy colour has its own virtue and makes you look more reliable, stable and approachable, great for job interviews, we must say.
White, colour of virtue and purity, is great for all occasions where you would want to look clean and gentlemanly. If your boss says that he wants to have an informal meeting with you over lunch tomorrow, make sure you have an aqua coloured shirt, any gay man in aqua is sure to look dynamic (which we already are) and motivated. Turquoise is also a good option as it looks youthful, imaginative and innovative, which a cool gay guy actually is!
The one fashion blunder that a gay should never make is buying a yellow-green tee or shirt, this colour that resembles squished caterpillar will have the gay community and the straights laughing at your expense!
Make sure you visit as many clothes shop as possible or buy clothes online in colours that suit your personality and ambitions.
Rozane is a gay writer who loves to write article on various gay issues. She now writes articles for Clothes Shops named Londongayman. Fashion and Style has always been loved by all in the gay community.
Ever notice how you put more value on something you worked hard for over something else that just fell on your lap? A common example of this is when you see someone spend lottery winnings on a fancy house, but thinking twice about investing life savings.
When something comes with a great deal of effort, that object increases its worth to that person who went through a great deal to get it. The same can be said about relationships. Someone who was won over with little effort can be let go just as easily. But when one is made to invest time and resources, it is harder to let them simply slip away.
Guys, believe it or not, it is okay, if not healthy, to let your lady work at your relationship and making things slightly more challenging for her to get you. After all, women have been playing “hard to get” for the longest time. It’s only right that they be returned the favor.
You may agree, but then you may not know exactly how. So read on for some helpful ideas on letting your mate work on increasing the value of your relationship.
- Retain some enigma.
Perhaps in their eagerness to impress the ladies, guys nowadays tend to share information about themselves short of a resume. That leaves very little for a woman to build her curiosity on.
Women are creatures of curiosity. They are wired to hunt for information on something that they are interested in. Just looking at how they consume gossip magazines will show you that.
Let this work to your advantage by revealing just enough information about yourself to get them interested while giving them hints on how to find out more. For example, let her know that you two have a common friend, but only give hints as to who it is. If she is in the least interested, chances are she’ll be asking everyone she knows if they know you. As a result, you’ll probably be constantly on her mind – which is a very, very good thing.
- Challenge her views.
If you don’t agree with some things your lady believes to be the only truth, let her know your opinions as otherwise. You will find that she will engage you with a lot more enthusiasm, if only to win you over to her side.
The advantage to this is that if you get “won over” by the arguments she made for her case, she’d feel a greater sense of attachment to you. Just be careful in doing so as your challenge can very easily be perceived as picking a fight, which may turn out badly for the both of you.
- Acquire a new skill together.
Whether it is a craft or a sport, encourage your girl to take up something she’s never had before with you. As she agrees, subtly push her to perform better than you are. If you are a very competitive type of guy, this may be quite difficult for you.
But if you keep your competitiveness in check, and allow her to excel over you with this new skill, you help build her confidence while at the same time making you the focus of her efforts.
- Let her imagination work.
When you and your lady have reached the point where you are physically intimate, you access another aspect of your relationship where you can allow you lady to work on.
When it comes to sex, even if she has already encouraged you to talk about it the first time, do what you can to avoid the topic – at least long enough for her to ask the second time. At this point, indulge her with some ideas you have in mind but leave out the details.
Allowing her imagination to fill in the blanks has already got you set up in her mind about the possibilities of an incredible night with you. Remember, a woman’s most erogenous zone is her brain. Work this part of her and it’ll take all of her self-control not to jump you the next time you meet.
These ideas all work to get your woman to invest more time and effort on you, reinforcing the connection you two have made. But be sure to affirm these efforts and let her know that you notice the work she is putting in. Nothing makes her feel better than to know her man thinks she is not only a great partner, but someone who can stand well enough on her own.
My Relationship Tips offers dating and relationships tips for men and women.
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